Marriages (in todays generation)

I hope the title has caught your eye.
I have discovered something very interesting.
In today's society we have a high rate of STD's , single family homes and of course people who refuse to have kids at all.
Why is it known that when your young you should party, experience other people and just get into things that will never be of any use later in life.
We have this set way that most people would like to marry in late 20's or even late 30's but never early 20's. Most people feel that when you marry so young it will cause unsuccessful marriage later down the road.That you need time to be to your self. NOT True. Have any one ever looked up how marriage started? Not to get all biblical but most of our laws come from the bible.Did you know that when a man leaves his mother and father he will cling to his wife.Not his house, his school or his money.His wife. What time did you leave home ? What time did you marry and between that time how much unnecessary trouble has it caused you? Why wait to marry when you have been with X amount of sexual partners have had a couple of different type of diseases and 2 or more kids out of wedlock? What happened to being a virgin? Having multiple partners makes you perverted and hard to be please. When you go all your life for 28 or 30 years trying out new partners you train your body to like more than one partner. For instance have you ever ate one type of dish repeatedly and then you stop don't your body crave to have that same dish . Well that is the way it is with sex with different people. How is it we believe that we can train or self to be with different partners for 20 to 30 years and then just have one. You have messed up your whole body function. You have been with people of different scents , personalities and God knows everything else. Maybe I need to list it. Vagina's is not all the same shape some are wide, narrow, fat and thinner then others. Penises are not the same long, wide, narrow, fat and skinny. Can you take a wide foot and put it in a narrow shoe? Or take a tall woman and put her into petite pants.Not a good fit!!I have a story I would like to share with you. Once I seen on a talk show about married couples in trouble. This biracial couple(which I am not against marriages of the opposite race) this couple had problems in the bedroom. The woman said that her husband who was a black man was too big for her. She actually went into describing exactly what she meant by too big. She said that he tears her and she will bleed and not small a tear really painful tears where they would need stitches. That is just an example of a couple that is not meant for each other how is someone who is going to tear you during a moment of pleasure for married people something God has designed (not so).

Now shacking, our playing house is what I call it is a big craze.When you end up with a unsatisfied mind because of all of the different personalities that you had to deal with. What most people fail to realize is that when you except the opposite sex into your life you adjust to there ways. You learn there likes ,dislikes basically its just like working at a job then you quit the job and start a new one with no similarity to the one you just quit.You have a hard time adjusting to the new job and excepting it because you compare it to the old one you left. The value we have for marriage is slim to none.When I say "we" I mean Americans. We treat it as a ticket to money success or even sex.Mostly never love. We tell our self we will learn to love later.Which never happens you just give in and act like your okay with things your really not.

I find it very odd for a woman to act like its OK for her husband to look at porn and she develops low self esteem about herself and feels she will never please her husband enough.Or pretend that its OK because she wants that pretty picture of a family that is not really there. Not to say that all men looks at porn but majority do. Some are disrespectful treat there wife like she is a glove he puts on from time to time. Oh, not to forget the women who will tell a man he doesn't make enough when she chose him in the beginning.I always say this remember the way you loved and treated your mate before marriage with such respect and dignity.There is always another woman or man out there who is willing to make them feel special and loved like you did when you where alone and in search for a mate.
The things that are reveled when you get married disguise me.When people lie and put up a front. Then show all evilness after the knot is tied .Well the reason they do this is because they feel marriage is not that serious well if this is the case why DID YOU GET MARRIED IN THE FIRST PLACE?! Was it for sex because you have a lust problem and lost your virginity the wrong way and now you can't function with out it? Or maybe for money because you messed up your credit and don't have anything to call your own because you partied and took life as a fun ticket to hell? Whatever pick is yours there both a sorry excuse to get married.
Marry for love not money, sex, or even kids.Kids grow up go on with there life and have a family of there own. In other words they leave the nest and leave you with the one you hate or never had anything in common but the kids.Also, If you think that someone change and your already married to them your wrong.Once its done its done. I mean everything is possible but its like teaching a child to curse at a young age and then when there older you want them to change its possible but very hard to do.It has been initiated that way and installed into them to act this way with you .It's a habit that is very very hard to break. Some people never change look at the divorce rates.
In this matter take TIME to discern your potential mate and feel your way through with them.Marriage is not a key you purchase and if it doesn't work you hand it back! Its for life don't let these T.V. shows fool you.When you get married your whole life changes you have everything to live for but the equal amount to lose.

Is this the way a relationship go? I hope not I am looking forward to being in a relationship but so far the ones I have seen and interpreted really disinterest me. So if marriage is for love then YES but for any of the things I have described here then NO. Trust me you know deep down inside what your heart wants don't ignore it.